All of the people who come into our lives – is it
destined or simply happenstance?
I think about this from time-to-time. Seventeen years ago I decided on a whim to
place a recruitment ad in the local college newspaper. It was for an entry level client service
position at my marketing services consultancy.
Only one person responded. She was hired, did an excellent job and after
six months left the company so we could date.
Fifteen years of marriage later we have three wonderful sons.
In mid-April my family enjoyed spring break on a cruise
in the Caribbean. During the flight
south to meet-up with the ship we sat with a charming family. I had the pleasure of chatting with the
mother about her practice of yoga and its resulting mindfulness.
And guess what?
The family happened to be at the airport in Florida booked on the same flight
home. This gave the mother and me the
opportunity to talk hypnosis, and how it can possibly produce a comparable
feeling of mindfulness.
Upon our return to the Washington, DC area, we were
able to get together so I could take her through a hypnotic induction and then
interview her for this blog. Included
below is an Email she sent me after her initial experience with hypnosis.
It’s thoughtful, well crafted and provides unique insight into one person’s impression of the hypnotic
experience. That’s why I have shared her
Email in its entirety.
So, I have spent a lot of time
thinking about the experience. I continue to find the whole thing fascinating
and I have continued to try spending a few minutes focusing on self-hypnosis
each day.
It's a different thing to try to
focus on something rather than to get rid of the extra junk in your head, so I
think it'll take a little more practice to get it down. I feel like hypnosis in
a non-stagey context is such a unique experience in this culture; I wish I had
someone to compare notes with.
But, perhaps I should start at the
beginning.
Though I did achieve a trancelike
state, I don't think I got as deep as I could have during the session. I have
wondered why and have a couple of thoughts, but no answers.
Was it a trust issue? As a woman, I
think there may just be something about putting yourself in the hands of
someone you don't know very well, even when things are presumably as safe as
they can be. Talking with your family went a long way, but I wonder - would a
group session have been easier? Would a follow up session be easier?
Was it a focus issue? I think I told
you that the process seemed fast to me, especially at the beginning. When you
asked me to take two deep breaths, I only took one in the time before you
started moving on. Am I dependent on a slower process to quiet the mind?
I was also getting ready to go away
the next day and had the usual list of 1000 things I had to do in my head. I
think I was able to put it aside, but I'm not totally sure. I know it was a
little tough to lose the traffic sounds and the sensation of the chair, and my
knee for the first portion of the session.
That said, it was really interesting
and invigorating. I don't often have too much trouble with sleep, but I didn't
notice a huge change there.
I did get woken up a couple of times
by external sources during the night and was a little afraid of being wide
awake and ready to start the day in the middle of the night; thankfully, that
wasn't an issue. I did get a couple hours less sleep than usual and didn't feel
any worse than usual, so maybe that was a bigger payoff than I realize.
After that, we were off for the long
weekend and sleeping with the sounds of the wind and the water. I have been
relaxed, but can't say objectively whether the hypnosis was a factor. I'll keep
you updated as the end of the school year draws near and I start stressing in
earnest about getting my paperwork done.
The funniest thing I have to report
is that I had several bouts of cognitive dissonance on Friday. I had no idea
how often I use deep breathing to keep myself regulated during the day --
driving, right before I walk into a classroom, while switching from a
disastrous plan A to plan B while working with a challenging kiddo.
I found myself starting to count
backwards without really realizing what was going on in several inopportune
situations and sort of jolted myself back. I think I have that pretty well
under control now, but boy was it a strange day!
I've been trying to focus on
patience, creativity and productivity (more in a personal than a professional
sense.) I find that so far, it is easiest to induce self hypnosis in bed, which
was the most successful visualization for me during the session; that image was
very vivid and continues to stay with me and facilitate focus, though I am
experimenting and will let you know how things are going.